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Shit that Pissed me off – 12/5

Radical Feminism Helps No-One

I don’t suggest clicking on the link above.  I know very few people who would sympathize with what is written there.

As someone who tries very hard to support feminism, I see nothing of value in this woman’s rant about how men are clearly inferior to women.  They aren’t.  They are different.  In some (mostly physical) ways men have certain advantages.  In other ways they do not.  When you remove the obstacles society creates for women, men and women are mostly equal.

Except Matt Damon.  Matt Damon is clearly superior to everyone.  I want to be clear that his superiority has nothing to do with his gender.

Except Matt Damon. Matt Damon is clearly superior to everyone. I want to be clear that his superiority has nothing to do with his gender.

The problem is people viewing this extreme point of view and calling it feminism.  As if all feminists are out there just despising men for having the misfortune to exist.

When, in truth, hardly any of them are.

Every point of view has it’s extremes.  The problem becomes people viewing the extreme position as representative of the entire position.  Feminism is about working to fix a society that is off balance.  It is not about creating a “utopia” where men don’t exist.

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Shit That Pissed Me Off – 11/28

Religious Conservatives Believe in Free Speech as Long as They are Doing the Speaking

In this case, the Duggars are getting a lot of flack for saying bigoted stuff because the bible says that kind of speech is OK.  Problem is, some folks don’t agree and have started a petition to get their show taken off the air.

So what’s the big deal you ask?  By petitioning TLC (that show is on The Learning Channel?  Really?) to cancel the show, they are attacking the Duggar’s right to free speech!

Duggar Family

I got this picture off of their family blog where they are regularly prevented from exercising their right to free speech.

 

I can’t believe we have to go over this again but NO WE ARE NOT!  Having the right to free speech is not the same thing as consequence free speech.  When you say thing that pisses people off, they get to say things back.

It amazes me that conservative Christians claim they are being “silenced” when all that is happening is people are calling them on their bullshit.

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Shit That Pissed Me Off – 10/24

Felicia Day Speaks Up About GamerGate and is Almost Immediately Doxxed

For those unfamiliar with the term, doxxing is when people take personal information (like home address and private e-mail accounts) and share them with everyone on the internet.  The intent is to encourage others to harass the individual in question either online or in person.

Because people are assholes.

Chris Kluwe wrote a profanity ridden rant against GamerGaters earlier in the week.  Was his contact information splashed all over the internet?  Of course not.

What is interesting about the Gamergate phenomenon is that they claim this issue is not about women in gaming and yet when women speak up, they suffer harassment almost immediately.  I’m not saying Kluwe didn’t get called names.  He probably did.

The difference, though, is Kluwe (and Wil Wheton) were called names.  Day had her personal information tweeted out within an hour.

This is not Felicia Day's house.  Or Chris Kluwe's.  Because where they live is none of your damn business.

This is not Felicia Day’s house. Or Chris Kluwe’s. Because where they live is none of your damn business.

Now I’m fairly certain a brief internet search could have yielded her home address.  That information may be private but it is hard to protect.  Her personal e-mail would take a little more digging but probably isn’t too hard to get.  Privacy is an illusion the internet is rapidly dispelling.

None of that changes the fact doxxing is an asshole move.  The only purpose is to harass the victim rather than engage in civil discourse.

GamerGate is not about ethics.  It is about being pissy because female gamers (and their allies) would like a few games for themselves. It also has an unoriginal and stupid name.

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Digital Shadows

Ghost_In_The_Machine_coverNote: what I’m writing is not intended to be a eulogy or memorial for anyone.  These are my thoughts inspired by the passing of a peripheral friend.  My friend Melissa Kaercher wrote a terrific memorial. I suggest you read it.

Over the weekend, news came that a peripheral friend was severely ill and would soon pass away.  Within 24 hours, we learned that she was gone.

I’m not going to pretend that I knew Holly very well.  Sadly, I didn’t know her very well at all.

I’m a performer so it could be assumed that I’m an extrovert.  And sometimes I am.

When I find myself in large group situations, however, I tend to gravitate towards people I know well.  It takes me a long time to open up to new people.  That isn’t their fault.  It’s mine.

I knew Holly because she attended Butt-Numb-a-Thon – a gigantic, weird film festival I also attend every year.  I talked to her for a few minutes here and there.  But I didn’t really know her.  She was one of dozens of people with whom I have a glancing relationship for one weekend every year.

She’s gone now and what I see online is an outpouring of love on her Facebook wall.  Yet that wall isn’t her.  It is a digital shadow of her.

I don’t believe in an afterlife so I don’t believe she will ever see any of the kind words that were written about her.  They are there, perhaps, for her family or loved ones but more, I think, for the person who left the post.

I don’t believe there is anything wrong with that.  We all have to process grief in the way that feels right for us.  Grief is not for the dead, it is for the living.

I’m more amazed at how there is a shadow Holly out there on the internet who will be there for some indeterminate length of time and who acts as a surrogate for the person who is no longer there.  The posts will cease after a while but she will still be there in some strange sense.

There’s an idea for a horror movie in there…

Looking at the outpouring of love for someone who is no longer with us, I have made a decision.

Kind words spoken to a ghost in the machine aren’t enough for me.  I think I need to say kind words to those who are still alive.

So yesterday, I decided to honor the memory of Holly (and so many other friends who have passed) by telling people I appreciate them while they are still around to read it.

If you get a personal message from me tomorrow or next week or next year, that’s why.  One message a day.  Give or take.

Life is short.  You never know when someone will exit your life forever.  I’d like everyone to know how important they are to me while they are still around to appreciate it.

 

 

Shit that Pissed me off – 9/19

Almost Everything About the Adrian Peterson Story

First, I’m upset that this entire story is turning into a question of what parents are “allowed” to do to discipline their child.

Look, it doesn’t matter.  Peterson hit a four year old with a switch until the kid bled.  That is beyond discipline.

Also, the kid is four.  Cognitively he doesn’t have the ability to fully connect the beating with the behavior that caused it. He may understand that he is being punished for something but he doesn’t know what caused the punishment.  So he wasn’t “disciplined,” he was just “punished.”  And in his mind the punishment was basically for the simple act of existing.

Then you have people like this guy writing articles about how spanking their kid is A-OK and, in fact, common sense (it isn’t).  This is not a case of simple spanking.  I don’t agree with him in any case (and my friend Levi Weinhagen makes good arguments as to why) but it isn’t the same thing so why even write the article?

Peterson’s mom says that the discipline used on Peterson must have been OK because look how he turned out.

Look!  He's smiling!  If being beaten by a switch as a child had any harmful effect, he wouldn't be able to smile!  Ever!

Look! He’s smiling! If being beaten by a switch as a child had any harmful effect, he wouldn’t be able to smile! Ever!

Yeah, he turned out to be a great running back.  Who has fathered several children by several different mothers and allegedly beat the crap out of (at least) one of those kids.  If you think your discipline choices didn’t have a negative impact on your son, lady, you might need a better idea of what “negative impact” means.

And of course you have the NFL and the Vikings, who only suspended Peterson when he became more of a PR liability than he had previously been a benefit.

They shouldn’t be waiting to see how the public will react.  They should be anticipating that reaction.  In the wake of the Ray Rice video, it shouldn’t have been too difficult to figure out what was going to happen.

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Shit that Pissed me off – 9/5

The Whole Jennifer Lawrence Nude Photo Thing

The problem is that there is a dialogue focused on whether or not Lawrence (and other celebrities) are to blame for the theft of their personal pictures.

Well let’s stop and think about this for a mom…NO!

I am writing this blog post on a laptop computer that is valuable.  Now you, the reader, know I have a laptop computer you could sell for money.  If you came over to my house, broke in and stole my computer would it be my fault because I made you aware that I owned it?

It looks a little bit like this

It looks a little bit like this

NO! That’s what we call theft!  There are all sorts of laws about that shit.

It is not my fault for owning a computer any more that it is Lawrence’s fault that she owned nude photographs of herself (if indeed those are photographs of her – which she denies).

Theft is a crime.  Owning things people want to steal is not.

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Shit that Pissed me Off – 8/15

We Lost Robin Williams and Lauren Bacall in One Week

I’m very sad to think that both these amazing artists are gone.

I’m just wondering why anyone would use this opportunity to abuse Williams’ daughter online.  I mean, what the fuck is wrong with you?

In the meantime, others are using Williams’ death to call attention to depression or addiction or to say that suicide is selfish and look, I don’ t know.  I’ve never been depressed so I have no idea what kind of despair would lead to making that choice.  I can’t imagine ever making it myself.

Robin Williams

Thing is, I didn’t live inside his head.  I don’t know what brought him to that incredibly dark place where the only conceivable decision was to end it all.

But so what? He’s gone.

And that sucks.

So let’s leave it be and say goodbye.  You were awesome, Robin.  I’m sorry whatever demons haunted you finally won.

Losing Bacall in the same week just pours salt on the wound.

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